How to give a shit

I pulled my back out on the toilet. Yes. I pulled my back out on the toilet, and I wasn’t even doing anything particularly strenuous per se. It wasn’t like running, lifting a box, or doing crunches. To be honest, I always seem to fuck up and hurt myself—Even when I started making moves towards being healthier (doing right by my body) and basically giving a shit. Trying to turn things around meant reforming all aspects of my life, but it didn’t quite make me eat salad either. I still managed to deep throat a Cadburys every night with full melted fellatio. And yet, I somehow wondered why the scale wept abuse every morning—having the ‘one last sugar night’ invariably ‘before the diet.’

I started trying to pull my shit together when I decided to give running a try. Having spiralled into a pit of self-loathing, the actual emotional feeling of wanting to run away had inspired me late on a Saturday night. I put my shoes on and ran. I got myself into the clothes—pretended to know how to stretch—and went for it. And for the first 15 steps, it was great. It did feel better. I felt I owned it—for those 15 solitary steps.

And then, giving a shit, started turning to shit. It broke me; the pain in my heart was matched equally to my mental strife. Emotions manifested in the act of my physicality— the thoughts in my head seemed to mirror the incapability of my body. Both tried to function through a riptide of molasses. They were pulling me back slower and slower in my 15 steps.

It was heavy on my chest, and it stung with the poor capacity of each breath. The tempo of my heart and the pressure of the angst related poignantly to the uncomfortable ‘too-small’ sports bra that I was wearing. (It had been hanging in my cupboard like-new for the past year) It burned, I felt bruised. I could physically feel my weight gain, forcing up and crashing down hard on the earth with intense strain on my feet. It’s amazing what a couple of pounds/drugs/drinking/smoking et al can do. And the cold air, coupled with the warmth of misery, forced tears from my eyes.

With my tits flat and my ass heaving behind me, it felt as though elderly people were rolling past in wheelchairs giving me the finger to hurry the fuck up. I felt like vomiting, my stomach hurt with every breath, and despite spending a good 20 minutes finding the right work out track, I found myself stopping to gather myself at every 15th step.

The tears ran to snot, the epic base drops in my ears were missed opportunities to ‘just kill it.’ I was not the Nike advert of Woman in charge. The road did not speak to me. If it could say anything, it would probably be, resounding laughter and jibes. Failure. I was trying to give a shit, but it felt like I was just epically eating shit.

And that’s just it; sometimes the shittiness is the motivator, at least that’s what the books tell you. It wasn’t glamorous, and I didn’t flounce past with a swinging ponytail. The instigation of drive didn’t outweigh the ever-present realisation that my health (and state of mind) were in a much bigger shambles than I thought. My heart struggled. To beat and to cry. It was a shit show, a shit parade to be fair—With all the trimmings of a full shit display.

Despite deciding to keep going, being shit, feeling shit—was shit. Giving a shit was a.. shit show. A shitty sprain strained in the side. It didnt make me fall into a deeper depression to be fair. I didn’t fall at all, which was a surprise. I didn’t even trip headfirst. I didn’t roll over or slide. But, as expected, I ended up with both feet somehow fucked equally after day two of trying.

It was after the doctor at A and E laughed at me when I showed him the shoes I wore. (Calling the fucking hideous shoes ‘fashion shoes’ and not running shoes) — He made me realise there was more to being a running professional than merely getting on the road. Notwithstanding simply just, being shit at it, I decided to spend a small fortune on shoes and read articles about how to breathe right— and how to run correctly— where to lean— how the pace could help the heart heal etc. I reflected if stretching and if pushing myself too hard the next day were to blame. (The self-hatred game) Both feet equally sprained. It was comical and ridiculous. Essentially giving a shit was the worst idea, to begin with.

After shuffling and the excruciating pain dragged on (quite literally) for a month, I found myself a day of reckoning. Finally, I could move; my Achilles were both no longer in pain. I could consider giving a shit, owning a shit, being the shit again! I’d done my research, I’d done the work and preparation. But like it always is with me—it was shit. Giving a shit was a.. shit show. Because on the day I wanted to give a shit, something as simple as taking a shit threw it all away. I pulled my back out on the toilet. Trying at life, working with it, giving a shit—meant nothing more than tension, tears, twinge and strain. Dealing with it, having a shit, was; for me… nothing more than shame.

How to give a shit

  1. Allow the self loathing to destroy you to the point of taking risks
  2. Prove to yourself how incredibly unhealthy you are
  3. Try avoid subconsciously self sabotaging your attempts with injuries
  4. Do some research on taking things at least 15 steps at a time
  5. Wear a cash helmet on the toilet